In Pursuit of Happiness

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So he is everything you’ve ever wanted in a man; he puts your needs above his own, he opens the door before you and pulls up a chair for you to sit at dinner. He calls you first thing in the morning and checks on you intermittently during the day to see if you are doing okay. As we speak, your phone is ringing and your guess is as good as mine, it’s him! He had called thirty minutes ago to see if your last appointment went well and now he is calling again! Hmmm, other than the fact that his constant calling is running your battery low, I don’t see anything wrong; he calls, he caters, and he cares! He is all the good ‘C’s in the dictionary, yet you still aren’t very happy and you can’t tell why.  I mean, you love the attention and all but something is simply amiss…..

Your girl stands head and shoulder above anyone else you know in character and in virtue; she is as graceful as they come! She loves you, she respects you and she treats you like you were family. Plus she’s a knockout; simply put, she has Mother Theresa’s soul in her Eva Mendez body! Your friends and family like the effect she has on you; she lights up your world like something from another cosmos. What more could a mere mortal ask for? But with all that she is, you are miserable and discontent and you can’t put it down to anything she is doing wrong; she would never hurt you.

The irony! Only a little while ago you would’ve given anything to be with them; just about anything to be with someone who would love you for you and give themselves up for you. And now you have more than you have ever bargained for, but it is not enough. In spite of your good fortune you are back to your old ways, once again you are a pirate at sea, pillaging and marauding on emotional waters! It is amazing how much ill and hurt we can bring to our relationships owing to our unreasonable expectations and deeply ingrained selfishness.

Wrong expectations; like we would change for the better if we were with the right people or we would be happier if we could find that one person who met all our requirements and gave us unfettered love and affection. Well, you may be wrong, apparently; I mean with all you have in your significant other, why do you still have ‘uncanny’ desires? Is it them or you? Is it because of something you are not getting or something you are not giving? Is it possible you are being selfish?

We don’t change just because we’ve got it good from someone else; we ultimately change for ourselves, then for love. You are not the good people do for you even if you think you deserve it; you are the good you do for them. And it is NOT what others do for you that make you happy; it is what you do for others. It’s called love and most humans need to be reintroduced to this ‘eerie’ yet simple concept. God made it so and it’s not only inexorable, it is fulfilling…….

Be the good you want to see in your relationship; put in time, value, respect, commitment and make a decision to make the other person very happy; a lot happier than you met them! You will goof and make big mistakes while you are at it but you will be glad you made a choice like that; for it will change you in ways you can’t even imagine, you will be HAPPY!

Coffee Break Series (1.0)

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Are you a team player? Do you value the input of others? Are your goals people-oriented? Can you handle a sincere second opinion?

Ask yourself, do you value a cause or a common goal above your own sense of worth? Can you get behind ‘our achievement’ rather than ‘my accomplishment’?

Can you stomach not being recognized for your contributions, however valuable they may be? Are you content with the satisfaction that everyone is happy? What is your strongest motivation on any project; is it self-acclaim? Or meeting the needs of others?

Being successful is very rewarding, but it gets really lonely being a lone-achiever for too long, its actually quite fulfilling working with people to achieve a common goal. There are sides to your project you cannot possibly see alone; probable pros and cons. Having a team not only ensures better efficiency, but also helps you cover your tracks.

Introducing TalkCulture #bringbackourvalues

Speaking your mind, how hard is it really? Well, when you think about it, it’s a vortex, especially when you realize how many times you’ve not said how you really felt for fear of sounding politically incorrect; or when you’ve looked the other way as someone else got victimized; you were right there, and you saw it all happen but it didn’t stop you in your tracks. I’m definite your memory is replete with times and occasions when you saw wrong and said nothing, as long as it didn’t touch you.

If it’s any consolation you are not alone in your misdoing; we’ve all grown quiet in some way; the whole world is living in denial – and it is our repressive way of coping with the harshness of the reality of the growing decadence; entire populations have been decimated as the world looked on, unruffled because we could still buy and sell! We are quiet about the increasing drug use, violence, unemployment, civil unrest and about every other thing wrong with our local communities.

We may not realize it but our silence is an insignia to something quite dangerous to our common existence; we are being ‘desensitized’ and it is the first step on our journey to being dehumanized! We don’t ‘feel’ like we used to and we definitely don’t ‘communicate’ like we used to. We’ve grown really selfish and silent, and we need a checkup!

You might ask, ‘how much difference can one man make, really?’ A world of difference I tell you; a single woman in the United States of America stirred such rave in the senate making it possible for the abortion bill to be passed into law and now over a  million abortions are performed every year; meaning over a million babies are killed every year from abortions alone! One man can make a difference!

There’s a lot going on in our neighborhoods, schools, local communities, and lives we can do something about by just speaking up. In a manner of speaking silence is consent!  Let your voice be heard, let it be on the record you said something.  We owe posterity that much. Let’s do this for a better life and for the sakes of our children.

I welcome you to TalkCulture with Wamdzu; a talk show making an incursion into the heartland of the seeming human conspiracy of silence; it is a TV experience that will definitely challenge your perception of the world around you and your response to its growing needs.

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